Bullies and stalkers are everywhere and the ones online are getting a lot of attention recently. Mostly you'd think of kids harassing other kids but that isn't necessarily so. I have been stalked by a cyber bully for at least 5 years. Most of the time, I don't respond to the stalker bully because that would only encourage him or her to go on. With a troll (someone who deliberately tries to start a fight), you can ignore it and it will eventually become bored and go away. This cyber bully has been the proverbial bad penny and keeps turning up and I am angry, frustrated and fed-up.
So what do you do about cyber stalker bullies? I found an excellent resource and have been reading through it here. I especially wanted to know how to deal with my cyber stalker bully and when I saw the "don't respond, don't engage" advice I sort of groaned. It didn't make my pest go away. But I did open my eyes to the next bit of advice: keep all the flaming email and posts.
Ohhhh ... I hadn't done that in all the five years. I mean, I did keep the ugly stuff for a short period of time but then I always got rid of it. Why? The pest seemed to slink away for a short period of time and the crap was so hurtful and ugly I didn't want to keep it. I imagine a lot of us would do that ... just flush the dump, right? Well, no more!
I am pretty sure my pest is the same person because the basic accusatory contemptuous tone is about the same. In the beginning, Pest would leave posts on message boards that I'd killed Rich to get his money to spend on Ebay and was just going to fritter it away and other stuff like that. The posts talked about my physical appearance and those of my family members. It was devastating to read that trash and I would become so upset and cry. Why would someone say something so ugly about me? I can't say for sure but I could get some idea reading the Bullyonline site.
Is that low enough yet? No? Well...when I was about to marry TB, the cyber stalker bully showed up in his guest book and warned him about me, that I would try to kill him too. But when that didn't work, TB became an enemy too and this stalker has left vicious messages for him as well in the past few months. We can ban IPs numbers and do but this stalker is particularly adept at finding us on other message boards, etc ... This is a serious psycho stalker. But the stalker bully is also a coward, always leaving "anonymous" and supposedly untraceable messages.
Anyway, one of the reasons I decided to write about this is because of how often people are bullied online, adults and children. So when you get home from a rough day at school or work and you just want to relax online and maybe post at your favorite websites, you need to be cognizant of the fact that bully stalkers will try to get you there too.
The idea is to get some of your power back. Go to Bullyonline and learn, learn, learn. The website is full of information about bully/stalker profiles, about what to look for in terms of provoking behavior, how not to be so vulnerable and, if need be, how to fight back legally.
Go away, fly.
::Domain Name Renewal...::
Onesome: Domain--Hypothetically, if you could own any domain name you wanted, what would it be and why?
Well, I guess it would be Irishcoda because that was my first ID and I still feel a strong connection to it.
I am called by my nickname, a shortening of my legal name. When I was growing up, my name wasn't common and so I didn't need to do anything weird to it to make it stand out. I have absolutely no desire to change my name.
Threesome: Renewal--Do you have any magazine or other subscription that is an absolute 'must renew' whenever you get the notice?
Not really
Posted by Cassie at April 21, 2005 02:32 PM