It's got to do with money, obligation and responsibilities and how we handle it ... and hurtful things said in anger.
When Linda got paid, she bought some other stuff instead of giving TB money for room and board. She got Tomas a box of diapers and some jars of food but there was other stuff too that was "want" rather than "need". So today TB asked, where's the rent money? and Linda said she'd only gotten paid $200 ... but she no longer had it. She said Tomas comes first which isn't what happened to all the money.
TB was upset and angry.
Things were said that shouldn't have been said.
The bottom line is, paying $300 a month isn't unreasonable for the use of the house, utilities, phone, cable, and car. Linda is supposed to be getting child support too and she'll be working more hours. It shouldn't be a burden ... but she needs to prioritize differently.
Tonight Heidi wanted candy and asked Billy if he had any money. He said no, he needs to save his money because the next time he gets paid he has to set aside car insurance money and has to pay Kristin and so that will leave him very little. Now that is planning. I'm sure there's stuff he'd like to buy with the money but he knows he can't.
That's life.
Nothing is certain but death and taxes --Benjamin Franklin
Onesome: Nothing is certain- Have you ever thought you had "Sure Thing?" Did it pay off or not?
I have thought I had a "sure thing" too many times and it didn't pay off. You'd think I'd learn. The "sure thing" usually involved a check that was supposed to arrive by a certain date or clear by a certain day. Everytime I assumed the money would be there, I'd buy something or pay a bill and then have to sweat bullets because the check didn't do what I thought it would when I thought! Sometimes it was a real disaster!
Twosome: But death- Do you belive in life after death?
Yes, I do. I believe in heaven and I think that our loved ones are all around us but we can't see them because they are in a different time continuum.
Threesome: and taxes- Have you got all your tax documents squared away and ready to work on? Or are you one of the people at the post office on April 15th?
I think it's all squared away. I remember signing the forms ... well, the federal is anyway.
Posted by Cassie at February 10, 2005 07:50 PMFROM THE WOMAN'S SIDE !
Sometimes,what a man thinks is frivolous,is an absolute necessity for a woman.Men usually don't have a clue!!It seems that, maybe,you might have been" looking" for a confrontation.A young mother,will (if allowed the space) learn and readily accept responsibility for herself and her child.Children,unlike major appliances,don't come with manuals.She didn't,and neither did her child.Allow her to feel her way through,sometimes,just like we had to do as young parents.BUT,be ready to help prevent disaster!!Maybe she'll surprise you!
If Linda can't get her priorties straight then ask her where else is she going to live for that much money. She needs to realize that she has burnt every bridge that she had. It is time for her to grow up and think about her son and not herself. I have tried to tell her over and over again. I don't know if she'll ever change. There is something definately wrong with that girl and she isn't mature enough to be a mother. :48:
Posted by: Michele at February 11, 2005 12:48 PMSweetheart, you are the greatest!
I love you!
TB