Hello everyone~
I have been thinking a lot about (or fighting with) my relationship with my boyfriend Kennan. We have had a very rough time trying to find out if we should stay together and get married and do all that other stuff. We go to counciling faithfully once a week, and to me, it seems as if nothing has been accomplished on his part.
First of all, he believes that the woman should work and help out paying bills, I on the other hand grew up thinking that the woman should stay home untill the children are of a decent age to take care of themselves.
Both are good ways to do it but I really thing that it would be best if I was home with Tk.
The next thing I think about is that we (him and I) have been together for three years already, and the thought has crossed his mind to ask me to marry him, but has never got the courage to do it. I have asked why and I don't ever get an answer.
I know there are alot of men that have a fear of commitment, But sorry buddy my patience is extremly thin. I feel I shouldn't have to wait any longer to have the family I so desperately want and need. I also think, aren't I worth it, and why am I even giving this guy so much leeway, and then I look at Tk and then all my troubles just melt away from my mind, (at the moment).
I am so confused at what do to, my family says I would be better off without him, and sometimes I agree.
Have you ever loved someone so much that you hated them at the same time?
That's partly what goes on inside me. (I don't know why I am writing this, but I thought if someone read this they could tell me something that I haven't heard already).
Everyday its the same thoughts, and even now I try to hold back the tears
I'm so afriad of both of the out comes, if I stay, or if I leave him.
Why do relationships have to be so complicated sometimes?
Hi Linnie,
When I was younger (in the age of the dinosaur) I was in love with a man who just wasn't good for me. But I loved him so much. I would do whatever he wanted, see him whenever he felt he was free, and put up with a lot of crap. It went on for 2 years and I used to go back and forth with myself. Stick with him? Or not? My family & friends said after 2 years the relationship was going nowhere and I should move on. It was hard cuz I still loved him. And yeah, I hated him, too, for not loving me the way I wanted him too.
I had this part time job in the summer and got to be friends with some of the people that didn't know me or my troubles. Toward the end of the summer this guy friend from work asked me to go out with him. Well, my first inclination was NO because I'm already in a relationship ... He gave me his phone number anywahy. I thought about it and after a week, I gave him a call. I thought, what can hurt? A movie and coffee? I deserved to have a good time out and this guy is a friend so ...
So we talked almost all night at the diner.
And I was confused. Because my friend was NOT my type but he just seemed to understand so much about me and he felt the same way about things that I did. So I agreed to go out with him again.
And after the 3rd or 4th date, I broke it off with my boyfriend. All of a sudden, he had all this time to call me with this "give me another chance" bull but I was determined to turn a deaf ear to him and I did.
And 2 years later, I married my friend Rich. I'd like to say I lived happily ever after but we all know that life is NOT fair nor a bed of roses.
Still, I am blessed because your dad is wonderful.
Lin, I can't tell you what to do. You have to examine your heart and pray and go with what YOU feel. Maybe you are leaning toward ending your relationship with Kennan and you need some assurance to do that. You've got it, we're all behind you even if you and Kennan stay together.
love,
Cassie
Lin,
I am not going to give you the little sister lecture. You are an adult now and need to make your own choices and think about what is best for Tomas. I know that you have been struggling with this even before tomas was born. I am proud of you for sticking with Daddy and Cassie and living there as long as you have. Kennan has always had a way to minipulate you and he has even pulled it with me. Just do what you think is best for you and Tomas and in the end that will be your best decision. I love you and only want whats best for you and my nephew.
Love
Shell